- Them resting together and talking to each other before falling asleep. Bonus if one half gets the other to run their hand through their hair and down their back.
- Forehead touching.
- Stroking one’s head in that way where their hand lingers on their cheek or jaw, and giving them a soft smile.
- Slow, shy kissing that eventually just ends up being really calming and nice to both of them.
- One person doing or talking about something they enjoy greatly whereas their partner just stares at them with a small smile and slight laugh because wow what a cutie their partner is.
- Hugs around the waist from behind and nuzzling their neck while talking as casually as ever.
- Forehead kisses.
- Playful arguing that leads to playful, harmless elbows shoving into their sides while they laugh at each other and themselves.
- Gazing up at the night sky while laying down on theirs and pointing out different stars and holding hands and shifting closer to one another.
I saw a few asks that say “describe my aesthetic” so this one takes a bit more creativity.
Whether it’s the lyrics or just the over all sound, send me a song that you think fits my “aesthetic”
While I agree with that “stop saying sorry” post I can’t help but remember that I was interpersonally manipulated by somebody who constantly said “sorry” in almost every circumstance, for everything, so long as I was around and only stopped when I did what she wanted, expressed the same opinions as her, and did only things that she enjoyed all day long.
Like as much as respecting people with anxiety is of the utmost importance it’s up to everybody to identify if they think they are being manipulated— especially other people who have social or interpersonal anxiety— because “behaving like you’re hurting or scaring them all the time, just by being present in order to gaslight you into thinking you need to be controlled/are out of control” is a fav of people who gravitate to the anxious.
People who have socially anxious apologies may have been made to feel like their own presence is inexcusable or their own needs are an imposition. This may be socialized (abuse victims, etc.) or it may not be— but it’s never about you, it’s about them. They almost always have a reason even if it’s not a reason that they really ought to be sorry for.
People who do the abusive apology gambit attempt to make you feel like your own presence takes up so much space that you’re choking the life out of them, and use their “sorry” as a way to try and get you to feel like you need to behave how they want so you don’t disturb them. These people apologize when it’s not about them, they just apologize when you display agency so you think you’ve done something to them. It’s always about you; when you ask them what they think they did wrong they have a tendency to get really upset because they don’t want to imply they, not you, feel they’ve messed up somehow.
admiral-akubra said: I wonder, what kind of spaceship would each of the 16 types use?
XNTJs: spaceship build to either take over the known universe or defend it from power-hungry despots. It has all the newest technology, and is as spiffy to look at it as it is fast, but has frequent inner-ship personnel problems due to multiple attempts from various NTJs who feel their vision is the one that ought to be followed, and bring constant mutiny to the crew.
XNFJs: beautifully-designed ship with a five year plan attached relating to humanitarian and diplomatic work. Not too flashy, though, as we don’t want to offend the poorer planets who can’t afford our holographic data and beaming technologies.
XSTJs: built for duty and functionality, it is 50 years out of date, but that’s good because the Cylons can’t hack into its computer systems with a virus and destroy the entire fleet through a mass takeover.*
XSFJs: the prime emphasis is on the medical bay, which is fitted out with the best comfort money can purchase, in readiness for all the aliens it may need to take care of when next they encounter a medical outbreak.
XSXPs: built for speed and high-stakes chases through alien-infested territories, with a fully-automated halo-deck equipped with pre-built in dangerous adventures to alleviate temporary boredom. The engine room is just as gorgeous as the rest of the ship, coz the ISTPs work there.
XNTPs: a practical ship with all the coolest, latest technology, particularly built for mental stimulation, with a fully-automated telepathic communication system, but is ten minutes late to depart due to the tinkering going on below decks, and the inability of anyone to decide which of the 10,000 planets they should visit first.
XNFPs: a unique, creative, and somewhat eccentric ship designed to stimulate the imagination of the many distant planets it will visit, in order to inspire the natives to feats of greatness, but plagued with indecision and a general attitude of “NOPE!” toward any attempts by the Fleet to control … well anything.
* If you get that reference, you are my new BFF.